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Posted: August 24, 2016, 4:03 AM
I'm so scared I'm drink everyday but I don't get drunk I'm a functioning alcoholic it runs in my family I have 2 boys 16 and 7 I am living in a dysfunctional marriage for several years we live in separate rooms I also care for my elderly mother I want help but I can not leave my boys as they rely on me for everything! my husband pays the bills and has no relationship with my sons or mother I don't have anyone to talk to I need help!!! I am alone in my home I have no friends no support system My family all live out of state Please give me advice, going to AA is all I hear I need a friend someone who knows what I'm going through! I went to AA and they did not talk to me they ignored me! I felt so alone I get more attention at Wallmart from strangers!!!
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Posted: August 24, 2016, 7:25 AM
AA will save your life if you let it. Try to fit into AA - not get AA to fit you.
Keep going to the meetings - ask an oldtimer to help you. Get your ego and pride out of the way and embrace the AA Program. When you embrace the program the members will embrace you. All the best. Bob R -------------------- Serenity Prayer God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And the wisdom to know the difference. Free copy of AA's Big Book on-line: http://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/alcoh...olics-anonymous Free copy of NA's Big Book on-line: Copy & Paste coastalcarolinaarea.org/literature/books/b_t.pdf AA's HOW IT WORKS: Copy & paste www.aa.org/assets/en_US/p-10_howitworks.pdf NA's HOW IT WORKS: http://www.na.org/admin/include/spa...0it%20Works.pdf ---------------------------------------------------------------- --- driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity. ---there are those too who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders but many of them do recover if they have the capacity to be honest. ... I need AA more than it needs me. --- I fight recovery tooth and nail.... I'm not used to being sane, it just doesn't seem natural. ...... According to the great spiritual teachers, ignorance does not result from what we don’t know; ignorance results from what we think we do know. ---Some think that 2+2=5 and believe it. Some know that 2+2=4 and can't stand it. --- I didn't have a very happy childhood but I sure am having a long one ! ---Dry since 1989 working daily on getting/staying SOBER. ---If you want to drink, that's your business ...If you want to quit, that's AA's business. ... Tell me, I'll forget; ... Show me, I'll remember; ... Engage me, I'll understand. ---Most problems are psychological. Most solutions are spiritual . "If we try to change our ego with the help of our ego, we only have a better-disguised ego." --Richard Rohr WWBWD (What Would Bill W. Do) | ||
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Posted: August 24, 2016, 11:40 AM
Hi Vanessa I related to your post . A few years back I was a young mother with kids and wanted and needed help for my drinking.I was in my 50's before that would become a reality for me. Like you I sought out AA and decided it wasnt for me and that I was not as bad or as deep in my addiction as they were. As each year passed my disease progressed and a lot of the not yets that I compared myself to in AA became my reality too. There are other methods than AA that one can use to get and maintain sobriety but whatever one you choose it will take work, dedication and a lot of support . I tried other ways but it was AA plus a stint in a treatment and the fellowship and support of other alcoholics that helped me get and stay sober. I won't bs you and pretend recovery was easy for me.. it wasn't . recovery is hard work, it is painful at times and unless YOU WANT to be recovered whatever route you choose to go won't work for you if you don't put your heart and soul in it . If you are serious about wanting to stop.. ask yourself this question.. what are YOU worth? Don't give up without a fight..your disease is such that it will tell you lies to keep you away from the help you need. you can choose to listen to the voice of your disease or you can choose to listen to the voice of your spirit that is reaching out from underneath for survival... hope you will come back here and post again because I care....I also hope you will give AA another chance. what have you got to lose?
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