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Posted: January 6, 2017, 6:49 PM
Hi All,
I'm worried that my boyfriend might be an alcoholic. Could someone please shed some light on this situation and what I should do. I have been dating this guy for almost 4 months now. We are in a long-distance relationship and see each other every other weekend. So, the behavior I will be describing is only happening on the weekends. I can't say if the same happens on the weekdays/nights as well. Anyways, I knew from day one that he liked wine. He would drink throughout the night, would take a glass to bed, and even would sip on the leftover wine as soon as he would wake up the next morning. I thought it was strange, but never really had an idea how much he is really drinking until last weekend. I took him to the airport at the end of the long 4 day weekend, came home and it hit me that he drank 6 bottles of wine and about half a bottle of scotch in 4 days all by himself. He seem to never get drunk despite drinking so much. He has a full-time job and works about 60 hours a week. He is a great guy and treats me really well. And I do love him. But I'm really worried about his health and potential problems down the road, as we are talking about a long term relationship. Also, I worry that him being under the influence pretty much the whole time to some degree while we are together, I don't really get to see his "real, sober" personality. I want to talk to him, but not sure how to bring it up without hurting his feelings. Also, should i talk to him on the phone, or wait till he is in town next time? He's been saying that the last few days i seem distant and asked me if everything was ok, and I'm hesitant to bring up the subject, Do you guys agree that he is drinking way too much? Do you think he is an alcoholic? Thank you so much in advance. | ||
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Posted: January 7, 2017, 12:38 PM
Hello.
You are dating someone who drinks alot. You cannot change it, you cannot control it, and you didn't cause it. He is an alcoholic if he says he is, and not until then--and even that does not necessarily mean he will find help. Visit the Friends and Family board--read a few threads about others and their alcoholics, and decide if that's what you want to deal with the rest of your life. If yes, brace yourself and go to Al-Anon early and often. If no, leave now. As a recovering alcoholic, I would tell you he is drinking just enough to get himself through the day. This post has been edited by skg on January 7, 2017, 12:39 PM -------------------- Faith is not belief without proof, but trust without reservation. | ||
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Posted: January 7, 2017, 9:44 PM
Yes he is an alcoholic . A normal drinker does not drink the leftover wine the next MORNING.
-------------------- JEN I have not been given a spirit of fear but of power,love and a sound mind. 
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