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Posted: December 15, 2006, 11:52 AM
hello ,i need some help it starts on the internet and i just get more extreem ,triggers are showing myself internet /window. women around me fetises domination extreems worrie me because were will it end
.cant just talk to a woman with out having sex thoughts or fantisies about them and its driving me mad can any one id or help me . also if any onehas any good email address as really want all this to stop so i can have some other thoughts for a change | ||
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Posted: December 15, 2006, 11:59 AM
GET YOURSELF A DR & GET HELP.....
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Posted: March 17, 2008, 6:00 AM
I would suggest that you read Out of the Shadows or the more recent book Contrary to Love. It is written my a therapist that is one of the top specialists in sex addiction. It will help you understand your addiction better and provide you with the tools to get help. SAA is even available on the internet now. He suggests both therapy and a 12 step program. Therapy will help you get to the core of when all this started and help you to heal that and the 12 step program because it helps remove the shame and guilt because you see so many others that are dealing with the same issues.
Sex addiction can manifest in different ways throughout a lifetime with periods of deesculation that can make it easy for the addict to deny there is an issue because it feels like it is being managed. If you do not get help with the illness and simply try to repress certain behaviors, it will ssimply manifest in different ways. For yourself and the people who love you, please reach out and get help. You cannot do it alone. If you do not have health insurance and cannot afford the counseling at a minimum reach out to a 12 step program. You are worth it, regardless if your inner voice or ignorant people tell you otherwise! My partner is a recovering addict - before he met me he was without electricity or hot water due to the financial mess his addiction created and was suicidal. He got passed all that only to find himself dealing with it again, just not to that level. It is an illness that requires much work and is a lifelong process, but you can get to that place where you believe that you are worthy, can trust others, can have healthy sexual relationships based on trust and intimacy, and be equipped with tools that help you deal with stress and painful or uncomfortable feelings in a healthy way. PLEASE REACH OUT FOR YOURSELF AND THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU! | ||
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