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Posted: May 7, 2014, 11:48 PM
Ha...thanks for that skg.
Coincidentally enough, after my meeting today, an old timer said those exact same things to me. That all I had to be was willing, open minded and honest, so your comment is well timed. Going back tomorrow, bright and early. :) | ||
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Posted: May 8, 2014, 7:25 AM
If you keep doing that then someday you will be an oldtimer passing along the same message to a newcomer.
All the best. Bob R -------------------- Serenity Prayer God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And the wisdom to know the difference. Free copy of AA's Big Book on-line: http://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/alcoh...olics-anonymous Free copy of NA's Big Book on-line: Copy & Paste coastalcarolinaarea.org/literature/books/b_t.pdf AA's HOW IT WORKS: Copy & paste www.aa.org/assets/en_US/p-10_howitworks.pdf NA's HOW IT WORKS: http://www.na.org/admin/include/spa...0it%20Works.pdf ---------------------------------------------------------------- --- driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity. ---there are those too who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders but many of them do recover if they have the capacity to be honest. ... I need AA more than it needs me. --- I fight recovery tooth and nail.... I'm not used to being sane, it just doesn't seem natural. ...... According to the great spiritual teachers, ignorance does not result from what we don’t know; ignorance results from what we think we do know. ---Some think that 2+2=5 and believe it. Some know that 2+2=4 and can't stand it. --- I didn't have a very happy childhood but I sure am having a long one ! ---Dry since 1989 working daily on getting/staying SOBER. ---If you want to drink, that's your business ...If you want to quit, that's AA's business. ... Tell me, I'll forget; ... Show me, I'll remember; ... Engage me, I'll understand. ---Most problems are psychological. Most solutions are spiritual . "If we try to change our ego with the help of our ego, we only have a better-disguised ego." --Richard Rohr WWBWD (What Would Bill W. Do) | ||
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Posted: May 8, 2014, 8:30 AM
I tend to be a little self centered and an example of self-will run riot. Just for today I'm relieved of that spiritual malady thanks to AA and people like YOU. Yep. Newcomers matter in my recovery! I am so glad someone further down the path took the time to take an interest in me and guide me through the steps. "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear," they said. If I could only do what the others had done I might just get what the others got. That's called HOPE. Don't let go of that even if your butt falls off! And keep coming back! You remind me of HOPE and this is a "WE" program. We help one another. ;) This post has been edited by skg on May 8, 2014, 8:32 AM -------------------- Faith is not belief without proof, but trust without reservation. | ||
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Posted: May 8, 2014, 11:51 AM
There are no coincidences just God moments! So happy to see you doing well!
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Posted: May 8, 2014, 6:30 PM
I'm trying! So far every meeting has brought some new insight or answered a question.
Today's reading from the 12 and 12 really hit home in a lot of ways about me as an alcoholic. I recognized a lot of myself in what was said. That was a good thing. As many good feelings I'm having right now...there are still the very present feelings of anxiety, fear...especially regarding my relationship with my partner, whom my alcoholism has affected. I know I just need to let go and let God regarding ALL of this...just feeling all the feelings. A lot of things I can't make up for or change...that's probably the hardest part for me to accept. That even though I've been a good provider, my mistakes seem to overshadow all of the good things I've done. I won't go into a whole big thing...it's just hard and I've got a lot of mixed feelings. A lot of the reasons I drank, I think, were because I tend to have difficulty managing emotions regarding interpersonal relationships. I have a hard time expressing when I'm displeased with someone I love, especially if they're resistant to hearing it. So in some regards, I drank just to sweep that stuff under the rug. Now I know, with a sponsor, support...things are going to come out. So I'm just nervous. Anyway. Thanks for all the responses. And for listening. I appreciate it. | ||
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Posted: May 8, 2014, 8:14 PM
When it is time, more will be revealed. Meanwhile, don't stress over things in the future--that's about fear and you'll learn as you go. For the time, just stay sober for today. The steps are in order for a reason, and that reason means developing the principles necessary to handle the next step. In succession, 1, 2, 3... Get to meetings and listen like the dying only can... Like I did. It's called, "The gift of desperation," and it's a magnificent motivator. :)
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Posted: May 11, 2014, 2:57 AM
Made it through two nights of working around the sauce. The meetings really helped. Will be back Monday.
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Posted: May 11, 2014, 5:59 AM
Hi TIS(timeisnow) . Being around alcohol is not wise in early recovery because seeing it and smelling it are definitely triggers. I am glad you made it through.
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Posted: May 11, 2014, 9:14 AM
Hello thetimeisnow.
Congratulations! You have made a good start. Keep going to meetings. We cannot do it alone. Keep coming back here. E. -------------------- Let me love and serve and teach, Those who come within my reach. For miracles begin that way! Author: Sally Deford | ||
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Posted: May 12, 2014, 3:50 PM
The good news is my primary job has offered me FT so I'll be able to step away from one of my days at the restaurant. That leaves only one day of the week around a place where alcohol is served.
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Posted: May 16, 2014, 7:50 PM
Still going strong. Just checking in. :)
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Posted: May 17, 2014, 4:55 AM
Hey Time.. Good to see you! Keep up the good work.. ONE day at a time.:) keep coming back.
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Posted: May 18, 2014, 2:10 PM
Arrrr cap'n! The weekends are the true test. Made it through another one!
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Posted: May 19, 2014, 9:16 AM
So, Time, tell the board what you're finding, can you? What are you doing differently? Are you going to meetings or white-knuckling?
One of the paradoxes of recovery is that you have to give it away in order to keep it. Helping others by sharing the message (HOPE) is how it works. Those who've lost all hope in addiction benefit from hearing that someone who's been struggling has found a solution. -------------------- Faith is not belief without proof, but trust without reservation. | ||
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Posted: May 30, 2014, 9:27 PM
Meetings and having people to talk to...staying active with work and painting...reminding myself what happens when I drink.
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Posted: May 31, 2014, 11:05 AM
That's great to hear. "A problem shared is a problem cut in half," someone said early in my recovery. They had no idea what was coming, I suppose... ;). But I began to discern what was mine and what wasn't mine in relationships. Cool stuff, this design for living. Keep coming back to share. You help me stay sober...
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