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Posted by: Codie January 30, 2017, 6:39 PM
Okay so im 8 days clean from weed, pot, green whatever you guys call it. I was smoking just over a year although only started heavily smoking about 7 months ago because of leaving school - work gave me heavy hours which the only thing making me sleep inbetween my long shifts was to get stoned. Anyway, still heavily smoking each day when my 18th came around on the 11th Dec my sister took me out for my first time (as my friends werent 18 at the time). I met a guy out at a social and liked him straight away. We ended up hanging out nearly every day after but being still so reliant on weed I kept changing my mind if I liked him or not - I ended up missing a lot of days when I was supposed to see him and let him down all the time just to get stoned instead. He gave me one last chance and got his friend to drive him an hour just to see me since he broke a bone in his shoulder he wasnt able to drive himself, though I pretended I wasn't there and hid. He ended it after that and now hates me.

Now im detoxing im realising I missed a chance to be in love with someone amazing just because of my addiction at the time.

My question is to you all, should I try contact him and tell him why I did what I did at the time and what it was caused by, or should I leave him alone after all i've put him through :( someone please help.

Posted by: hellomommegan January 31, 2017, 2:53 PM
Codie, weed, is taking your life away from you. I know its hard, but you have to choose. If continue not only will you loose everything, but your will loose your health in the long run. Dont let it take your life away, you deserve to be happy. Fix up yourself and he will take you back.

Posted by: Bonnie5 February 2, 2017, 10:51 AM
wait first to stabilize yourself, you are only clean for what 8 days.. your body/mind needs time .. if he was the one then he will be in few months time to! Now you need to concentrate on yourself and your own feelings . Probably you are going to experience ups and downs, euphoric feelings and feeling depressed . Do you have support or you doing this on your own?

Posted by: MathewCix January 20, 2019, 4:12 PM
I have been seeing someone for about a year, have known him for over 10 yrs. He was clean for years and three years ago he relasped. He has been sober on and off since. He recently had a relapse again last weekend and says that he needs to dive back in to AA and get his head straight and he needs space from me. I have always been there for him previously and never have been pushed away, it went from 100 of being in love and all was good to in a matter of a couple days, extreme distance. What do I do or what is the best way to support him, Im afraid if I leave him alone and dont talk to him, he will think Im not supportive, then Im afraid if I ask too many questions, it will not be good. I would appreciate any advice.