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Posted: March 14, 2016, 9:51 AM
My AS has finally been arrested and put in jail. Besides the two warrants he had for retail frauds, he now has added charges of resisting and obstructing, possession of drug paraphernalia, and littering (because he ditched his bike and took off running). Unfortunately for him, he had to withdrawl in jail. He called me a couple times on the first day and I talked to him. I went and picked up his clothes from where he had been staying. Then after he saw the judge, he was begging me to put up $470 for his bail. I told him no, I don't have it and anyway he'll be serving time for all this so he might as well start now. He kept calling from the jail but I didn't answer. Finally, I figured out how to block the number. No more calls. I told him I would write him every couple days and I would come to visitations when I could. Part of me feels sad that he has to go through this but the other part feels ok...he's got a roof and he's not using. His court date isn't until the middle of April so I don't know how long he'll get but just like others on here, I feel like I can breathe a sigh of relief...at least for now.
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Posted: March 14, 2016, 3:42 PM
Hi Michelle, I have been looking for you and hoping you were doing good. I don't know whether to be glad for you or be sad for you. But I do feel stunned. I know you were expecting this sooner or later but when it happens it's quite shocking. Well you know where he is now and he's away from that drug house. Terrible you had to go there to get his clothes. Our A's certainly open up a whole new world to us that without our A's introducing it to us we would have never imagined what that life was like. Hopefully when he gets sober he will have time to think about his life and how far he has gone off the rails and maybe this might be the making of him. I really hope so! How long do you think he will be kept in jail for? It's so hard even when their in jail, it's still torture for us. I refused to pay my daughters bail one time but she got her boyfriend to pay it. I hope you get peace of mind now Michelle at least like you said he's dry,warm and getting fed. Thinking of you. God Bless Mary.
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Posted: March 14, 2016, 5:25 PM
Hi Michelle,
This is just so odd! My a.s. son just got out of jail today. I want to promise you something. .. even if you don't go see him for visitation, take him $, or bail him out, or write him letters. .. He'll still love you. My son has been in jail since January 26th. He had an active warrant for missing court. He was basically living like a dog. Sleeping wherever he could, using and drinking, and begging me for $. I decided to turn him in. I had to find out the place he was most actively sleeping at, call the police, and ask them to get him. It was the hardest thing I've ever done! However, while in jail this time, I didn't give him a dime. Not even to call me. He called me on his girlfriend's dime twice. (Which I really did appreciate it). He doesn't know I turned him in, but I felt as though I had no choice because of all the things he was doing. .. It just meant more charges! Anyway. .. even though I didn't do all those things like I did while he was in jail the other times, he still came to see me within 4 hours of being released. You are his mom he'll love you no matter what, just as you do him. Relax while he is there. Maybe this is just what is meant to be. .. For all of you. Praying for all our addicted loved ones This post has been edited by mommalove on March 14, 2016, 5:27 PM | ||
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Posted: March 15, 2016, 6:51 PM
Hi Michelle,
Feels funny having them in jail which no mother wants, but on another hand, they are safe feed and cleaned. My son just got out on Feb 18, day before his 35 birthday. He said he found out why he is using. Things are not any better, he got back with this girlfriend, and they have joined a fair. Can't believe it my son is a carney person. He said he is happy and has a tent, travels and food They can get showers. Problem is he got three years probation. So how long do you think he will stay with it before a warrant is out for his arrest. He doesn't call often now. He didn't call me at all in jail. He waited until two weeks after he got out. I am sure looking for money for his birthday. I didn't call him/write him or leave him money in is fund. Of course when he call I got no one ever visits me except the G/F and she is the only one that cares. I said well good at least you have someone. Then he change his tune and said Mom I know you love me. Then he hung up. Be at peace Michelle, it's short lived but try to put his problems out of your mind. I know it can't leave your heart but we as mothers in title to a life and I am going to have one. His problem is not my problem. He refuses to stay with the clinic expect to get his meds. Which he probably needs now due to the abuse of drugs. I wish I could win lottery and lock him up in a top rehab but will that help? who knows. Keep us updated and we are all here for you. Stay strong that's what I tell myself each day.. xxx Susan | ||
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Posted: March 16, 2016, 11:03 AM
Thanks ladies. I'll keep you updated with any news. I probably won't have any until his court date on Apr. 13th. Love to you all.
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Posted: April 7, 2016, 6:23 PM
Hi Shell,
Are you doing? It won't be long now. Are you nervous? what are you hoping for. Jail time, or force rebhabilation. Are you taking care of you I hope so. Please let us know how are you... xx Sue | ||
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