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|Posted by: New Life January 4, 2017, 9:14 PM|
|How can one have a health sex life with their significant other after crack driven sex for years. The crack prostitutes sex trances happen when thinking about sex. Also, the high along with the process makes even sex a trigger.|
|Posted by: Newlife2016 January 4, 2017, 9:17 PM|
|How does one have a healthy sex life after crack addiction. Crack sex daydreams and sex triggers tend to make it difficult to perform normally.|
|Posted by: Rebozo January 5, 2017, 3:31 PM|
|I know exactly what you mean.
I have never heard anyone discuss this. But for me, celibacy is part of staying clean. I cannot figure out how else to do it.
|Posted by: angelonyc December 22, 2017, 3:26 PM|
|I smoked crack and had intense sex for many years.. Now the two are entwined together...
Without one I have little interest in the other...
I have had sex without the crack.. It's different now..
I liken it to: 30 something years ago, I gave up the very heavy mariquana habit.. I felt, 'the colors were no longer as bright, but I could live with that..
When a loved one dies, I liken it to my arm being ripped off.. I'll never grow a new arm, but I can learn to function without one.
Yes, I can have sex, it's just not as intense. I still often think about crack, go look at some pornography, and the desire gets stronger.. then I just shut off the computer..
Years ago, when learning to quit crack.. A long time user, gave me this advice.
Realize the really strong temptation to use will last perhaps up to an 30 minutes, and then subside, at which point, you are not in immediate danger of using.. So if you can just hold off for a while, the temptation will subside
To be honest, sometimes I just watch a porn video, imagine I just took a huge hit, and pleasure myself. It may not really be solving the problem. But I got my business over, It didn't take 8 hours and I didn't blow $200..
Of course when doing crack, I and I imagine most people, no longer care about love, they care about getting the d*** (I'm gay).. I didn't much care who was attached to the body part..
I wondered when did I transition from loving someone, and using sex as the ultimate expression of love, to just satisfying my urge, and really not caring about the other person, other than would they be available in the future.
To date and find someone to love again. will take much more work. At this point in my life, being in love is not high on my priority list..
I did go 8 years being both clean and celibate.. And did feel rather good about that.
But good sex is a powerful medicine. It relieves, stress, anxiety, depression.. To work toward getting that back in your life (without drugs) is a great goal. And yes, some people can accomplish this. For other of us, it means we can continue on, but will perhaps never experience that ultimate high of drugs and hot sex.
Truth is I, and some of similar aged friends (69) realize the trade offs. I would never go thru the mad passionate stuff I did when 30. I just don't have the energy anymore. And less testostorone pulsing thru my body, makes me feel content..
It's not I don't see someone who gets my heart racing faster.. for me at this point, it's mostly window shopping. I can admire people, but I don't want to deal with all the stuff that comes with maintaining a close relationship anymore..
Each of us is different. of course
|Posted by: rico 007 January 15, 2018, 10:43 PM|
|bro you hit the nail on the head and i dont really remember what you said right on
|Posted by: scdad January 29, 2018, 4:16 AM|
|Thank you angelonyc for your sharing and advice. I for one have the same urges, but different results. The poster really hit home w/ the crack prostitutes, however, I don't get aroused at all, but the feeling is unlike any euphoria I've ever experienced. And i lose hours thinking about scenarios over and over again. I've watched the porn and imagine the timing and i'm left in a trance for over 30 only to crave it more.
I relapsed recently after a couple of years being crack-free, but I romanced the high almost daily and it has taken its toll on my marriage. My wife thinks its another woman, despite my explanations. I actually came clean without lying. Bad thing I was on a $1300 2 day binge that resulted in the same outcome of unsatisfaction not being able to nut while I hit. Its been that way for the 5 years I been on the drug.
Clearly, I am sick, but I'm not alone. I am not attracted to women unless its them crackhead type. And all I want is head. Not intercourse. And after all that want, once I have that pipe and crack in hand, for whatever reason, I don't get aroused no matter what I do. Especially after I take my hit. So what's the point? I chase a ghost that never even said boo.
I have a beautiful attractive wife who has been there for me from the beginning. I'm beyond looking for answers as to why. I have my work cut out for me b/c, Deep inside, all i wanna do is smoke and get head. That's not going to happen, but I want it more than anything. And thus lies the danger. I know better, but still.
Hope this helps someone.
|Posted by: Rustybear1 July 20, 2018, 4:36 AM|
|Thanks everyone, each of the previous post have something and actually several things that resonate with me. It's like the desire for passionate sex and the euphoria from crack are intertwined for me... I too am gay and whenever I begin to fantasize about sex or watch porn it automatically triggers me to crave crack...And if I have money on me or whatever the desire becomes pure obsession.. I really need help... I have been to 4 rehabs and still I haven't been able to to stay clean for more than 2 months ...Lord help me and all of us...|
|Posted by: davidb0814 February 16, 2021, 7:53 AM|
|I know the feeling. When I smoke crack, all I want is a man to put it in me.|