Is It Ever Too Late For An Addict?
Posted: August 14, 2017, 11:15 PM

Posts: 11
Joined: August 6, 2017

After watching my spouse battle opioid addiction for 15 years and now crack, I honestly worry he won't ever get better. This drug has the worst hold on him and I mean he's in his early 50's. How is he even alive?
I am so glad he is going out of state for treatment but I wonder if I should finally divorce him. I have accepted that just bc I love him, it does not mean I have to live with him. He can go months or years between relapses but he always goes back to drugs at some point and this crack addiction is the worst yet. He is a professional, educated man but right now he's completely out of his mind! I guess I have a lot to figure out.
Posted: August 14, 2017, 11:26 PM

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Joined: November 2, 2016

Hi Dirk,

Sounds like you have been through a lot for a long time. I am so sorry that your husband is deep in his addiction.

In some ways we are in a similar place but with different situations. Tonight is the first time I have seriously thought about walking away from my son for an extended period of time. Like you, I am just incredulous the power of the drugs and am so tired of living this way. In my case, he is verbally abusive/threatening and has not improved. Even though he is young, I worry that he will develop brain damage and never be able to recover. Never realize he could have had a different life.

I know people say there is always hope. And, I know there is always hope. Drugs are so powerful and so destructive. Leads to tragic situations.

In reading your other posts, you are doing the right thing. I agree your husband needs to leave for an extended period of time. You are working on you, which is fantastic. Take this time for yourself. I know it sounds corny, but I heard Whitney Houston's song about "learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all". It really is true. Stay true to yourself and keep going to the counselor.

Glad you found this place.
Posted: August 15, 2017, 9:22 AM

Posts: 11
Joined: August 6, 2017

Hi Parenting
Thank you for your response. Yes I have been living in this asylum for way to long. My problem is that I'm everyone's nurturer and I always think he will get better. I have 2 daughters in their 20's. They do not use anything and are terrified to even try bc of their experience with their father. They had no idea he had a drug problem until 6 years ago. I hid it from them but I imagine what I would feel like if one of my girls was using. I know you have to be terrified and as a mom you probably want to fix your son. I don't know how I would be able to detach if it was my child but you have to. Hang in there. Surround yourself with nonjudgemental friends and family and keep coming here.
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