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Posted by: Jess2 August 14, 2019, 7:20 AM
My. Husband is addicted to weed,, and I dont. Know if he is using other drugs. Today, he was going to sleep and suddenly I felt the bed shaking so badly, I looked at him and saw him shaking too like a strong spasm, blood coming out of his nose and foam from his mouth, his lips were taking a side like paralyized.. He wouldnt talk or move, his face turned bloody red.. I kept screaming and washing his face, in about half an hour he started to talk but said he had a severe headache and extremely tired.. The ambulance men said he might have used a drug,, but he denied.. I want to know if this is a symptom of a druge use or a serious physical problem..

Posted by: Sallyanna August 14, 2019, 7:48 AM
Sounds to me like he had a seizure which could be drug related. Many of these drugs lower seizure threshold then abused can make it more likely. Can happen in overdose too. Sometimes pot is laced and they know it usually when they buy it because it's more expensive or he may be on some other drug too IDK. Its a very scary thing to happen and quite serious. I hope he seeks help and I hope you take good care of yourself. Living with someone with an addiction is a full time job and it's a parent-child relationship. Its not healthy.

Posted by: Parenting2 August 14, 2019, 8:46 AM
I agree with Sallyann-many drugs can cause this type of reaction. I am sorry you are in this situation! What did the actual medical report say? I imagine they did a blood test for drugs?

Posted by: Jess2 August 14, 2019, 8:54 AM
Thank u so much for ur reply.. Sadly he refused to go to hospital or do any kind of tests but I am thinking maybe cocaine? I asked him and ofcourse he denied, I am too concerned for my family and torn because I am not sure if he is on other drugs that caused the symptoms or he has a medical condition and needs my help..

Posted by: Parenting2 August 14, 2019, 9:51 AM
My son has refused to go in for help when he has serious signs. I always think this has to be a red flag for drug use, because why wouldn't someone go get help? Of course, there can be other reasons, as men, in general won't go get help even with signs of heart attack. I still think it is a red flag that something is wrong.

I am so very sorry you are in this situation. It is bad enough with a child, but I cannot be imagine being in a marriage with these issues. You really have to be selfish. You have to think of yourself and be tough on his drug use. Otherwise, it is an endless cycle of hurt.

I forget, do you have children? I am thinking you do. Do you have support/family close by?

Posted by: samegame August 14, 2019, 11:22 AM
Pot is not as harmless as the pro lobby wants people to believe.

I've seen the alkie exhibit some very different behaviors when mixing pot and alcohol. Their personality changed while on pot. That tells me it's probably affecting more in the brain than the pleasure centers.

Posted by: NyToFlorida August 14, 2019, 5:50 PM
Hi Jess, so sorry u are going thru this. My son also will deny any drug use. And not get treatment for symptoms that a normal concerned person who wants to take care of themselves would do. Conclusion- he knows what he has taken and he knows the drs will find out if he goes to hospital. He will always deny it. He either has a medical condition or bad response to drug use or withdrawal. In all cases he needs medical treatment. He may have an underlying heart condition that is exacerbated by the drugs he is taking. People can have a stroke from the drugs or withdrawal. All signs point to medical attention. This may not end well if he continues.

Posted by: NyToFlorida August 14, 2019, 5:55 PM
Jess you posted in February with similar concerns.

Read at the website

Read the tabs about individual drugs.

Your husband needs medical care, detox in a medical, safe environment.

Unfortunately these drugs don’t quit until everything is gone. Friends, family, finances, home. And it still keeps going. Think of addiction as a parasite attached to your husband. It won’t stop on it’s own.

Posted by: NyToFlorida August 14, 2019, 5:59 PM
Sorry to sound so firm. I have had 6 yrs to get to this conclusion w my son. Each time he relapse, he will not stop until all resources are exhausted.

You may need to give him the altimatum that you are moving.. or he is moving out... and he needs to be in rehab.

You don’t have to get a divorce, but live separately until he is clean for a year

Posted by: NyToFlorida August 14, 2019, 6:05 PM
Maybe his symptoms were that of an overdose. Idk. Each time it will be worse. The ambulance will not take him if he refuses treatment. They probably see what is going on, they can’t force him to go. And hospital will not admit a person if they don’t want to be there. Their perspective is that he went and consumed drugs, if he doesn’t want treatment it’s not their responsibility. Legally it isn’t and they can be sued for overstepping their job position

Sorry this falls on your shoulders, you will be responsible for not getting him to the hospital. He probably won’t hate u for forcing him to go to rehab. Some day he may thank you.

I wrestled with this emotionally earlier this year. because I am mom, I wanted to respect my son's decisions and wait for him to realize that his addiction was ruining his life and wait for him to say he needed help or to go back to meetings and the local recovery center. That senerio was only in my mind. It did not work out that way. that would have been the easy way.

Instead, as we cut him off and kicked him out, he saw it as US ruining HIS life - because we were being "difficult".... by not giving money, or a new car... ?? He had turned OUR life into a nightmare.... I left our house for 2 months because I did not want to be face to face with him and be asked for money or car etc. he did move out, but still did not get back on his feet, just did more of the same stuff and "tried so hard" but nothing changed.

It is difficult to make the hard decisions for him (your husband). It will feel like he hates you, he may say so for a few months. When my son got arrested, he called for us to bail him out. we said no. he said he never wants to see us again. (yet he asks for me to transfer $$ to his commissary account)

asked why he was arrested and has spent 5 months in jail, still will not admit drugs had anything to do with it.... "he was in the wrong place at the wrong time, the police lied, the store owner was wrong" and so on.

I am telling you all of this hoping you will see there is little you can do to convince your husband to get help. Some how you need to force him by leaving, or him going to rehab. He may loose his job, apartment, have no food. it is sad but not your fault.

When in this state of active addiction, they are not thinking clearly at all. My son can hide it up to a point - and seem to function - going to work - eventually it gets to the point where the addiction is all consuming and everything falls apart rapidly.

How is your husband paying for drug use?
idk how much stuff costs or how much is needed in a week. my son was going thru an $800 paycheck in 5 days or less. that is the point where it gets worse. he cant financially support it. and we refused or argued everytime he asked for gas. Our yelling didn't help him stop. being nice didn't help him stop.

homeless, jobless, carless, foodless, he went to hospital for a few weeks, got out with perscriptoins for meds, still kept it going another few weeks until arrest. if we bailed him out, it would still be going on.

Our son will be out of jail in another month. he will be going rehab (5th time) its his only choice in order to have housing. I am hoping he follows thru and sticks with a sober living program / housing. Otherwise, I am sure he will relapse again.

The part that I had to come to terms with it is that I was enabling my son's drug use to continue. I decided that it is too hard for me to live in the same house as my son and not give him food, gas, my husband has a hard time with son pouting around the house. he would rather give him a old used car so he can find work. Unfortunately, our helping, helps to keep him in addiction. I firmly resolved to myself that I will no longer participate in his addiction. Therefore, I needed to remove myself from the equation.

I don't know how it will work out a few months down the road. I will leave my house again if I have to.

Posted by: NyToFlorida August 14, 2019, 8:58 PM
Another mystery is when WE know all of what I said above, we still wait for them to make a decision to change. We keep waiting to see improvement. They keep saying the right things to postpone our tough love. then, you realize 6 months have gone by and nothing changed.

Posted by: Parenting2 August 14, 2019, 9:00 PM
Wow, can I relate NY. The insanity just lingers. So heartbreaking to a mother's heart.

Posted by: NyToFlorida August 16, 2019, 5:51 PM changed its website format. Click on menu upper right corner, then who we serve, then addictions. You will find info about various drugs

Posted by: NyToFlorida August 16, 2019, 9:37 PM
Hi - I came across this information. idk what drugs your husband is doing, and you may never know. I would guess he is doing the usual stuff - herion, pills, crack or cocaine, methadone . I saw something about nitrous oxide - maybe the sx fit... then again, they all have similar sx in some way.

in the end knowing what he is doing, does not change the issue or outcome.

What are symptoms of a nitrous oxide overdose?
irritation of the nose, eyes, and throat.
wheezing, coughing, or difficulty breathing.
choking or tightness in the chest.
bluish fingers, toes, and lips.
rapid heart rate.
psychosis or hallucinations.

Common short-term side effects include:
excessive sweating

Posted by: NyToFlorida August 16, 2019, 9:40 PM
Jess - hope you are well. sorry that I was harsh with some information. It takes a lot to get to the point of walking away. or being the bad guy that has to be the responsible person in the situation.

Posted by: Sallyanna August 17, 2019, 12:02 AM
Jess2 I'm sorry you are in this situation with your husband. I've been giving what you're written some thought. I think most people who had the symptoms your husband had (which were quite scary and serious) would seek medical attention. The fact he didn't go for medical help of any sort is a red flag. (my opinion). I think he needs to be honest with you so you have the information you need to know how you want to live your life. You have a right to know the truth. If he can't be upfront it's going to be hard to trust him. Without trust, there is no relationship. I wish you all the best. This is hard but we can't deny what we know to be true.

Posted by: Alexendra Berehnova August 28, 2019, 8:13 AM
Hey Jess! Not sure about this. But you should consult a doctor or drug center hotline nos for this for clear guidance. After testing they can better explain to you why this happen?