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Pushing Past The Anger

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Posted: August 14, 2018, 4:53 PM
This is to anyone that has beaten the beast of anger and frustration. My daughter is 26 years old and has been a drug addict since she was a teenager. She stopped for awhile when she had her 1st daughter, but went right back a year or so later. Then she had another daughter and still couldn't get her act together. I sent her to rehab a few years ago, while I kept her kids, but then her ex got out of jail and took custody and there was nothing I could do. I fought for them, but grandparents have no rights. My mother, who knows nothing about the struggles of being a parent of an addict, thought she would help by getting lawyers to get the kids back. All that did was cost her tons of money to realize my child thought life was easier without them. Every now and again she gets clean and acts like a mom, but for the most part she puts the men in her life before anyone else. On her daughter's 7th b-day, which was 7/24/18, my daughter tried to take her own life. I had them get her to the hospital and undergo psychiatric help. They sent her to Green Oaks, but was released 3 days later. She came to my house so I could help her get into counseling, etc but she used her phone to contact her drug friends. I took the phone away and sent her to a Christian conference in hopes she would find herself, but she refused to go to the sermons. It was also 1 week I thought I didn't have to worry about her, but my sister let her use her phone and it started again. She got to my sister's house Sunday and at midnight she was gone. I have done everything in my power to protect her and her kids but I can't continue to stress, and hold her secrets. As far as I'm concerned she is on her own from here on out. My problem is letting go of the anger. I know she didn't choose to be an addict, but her actions show me she doesn't care. I am a strong, single parent that has gone through 2 abusive husbands that were addicts and I never waivered or let them get me down. I would never allow anyone to harm my kids, so the fact that mine is hurting her own, through her actions, just plain pisses me off. I don't know how to let go. I just want to beat some sense into her, but know that wouldn't work either. I want to show love but I have so much anger I can't see anything else. Any ideas how to stop myself from feeling so mad at my child?

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Posted: August 14, 2018, 5:37 PM
First, I want to give you a hug. I completely understand the anger phase you are in a I'm right there with you. My stepdaughter is taking the same path that your daughter did and I just want to scream and shake her until she comes back to reality but just like you, I know it won't make a difference.

But if you do find your answer, please share.

I battled my own addiction only to be buried by another's...

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Posted: August 18, 2018, 2:48 PM
I have to use all of this anger to keep living,to keep going forward. At this moment my daughter is in a pysch ward waiting to go to rehab. I am clearing out the house she was living in. It is my house and I am going to sell it.
As I'm going through things, I find tokens from her youth. That makes me feel bad about getting rid of the house. Then I'll open a draw and find drugs or sone paraphernalia. Makes me mad,but reminds me quickly what a messed situation this is.
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