My Journey Has Come To An End
Posted: March 18, 2021, 9:18 PM


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I wrote on this board last year and really appreciated the kind responses. My husband and I were retiring, wanted to move out of state and our drug addicted son was living with us. We told him he could come with us if he would just stay off drugs. We went thru meth induced psychotic delusions, etc. Total nightmare, especially during the shelter in place because of covid. We went thru 10 years of his crap. He stole, lied and manipulated us. We put him thru rehab twice and paid for a sober living home twice. Finally I said enough, we kicked him out of our home and moved out of state. I still talked on the phone and sent him money sometines..He was homeless. He died of an overdose last January and I can't get over my sense of loss. I was so angry at him and relieved to get away from him and now I am just so sad, and guilty. The guilt is the worst, I wanted him to just go away and now he has and I just feel lost. I loved him so much despite everything.

God bless I wish everyone here the best in their journey with their loved one.
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Posted: March 18, 2021, 11:18 PM


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Hello longevity, I am very sorry that your son has lost his struggle with addiction. My condolences to you and your family. Addiction is so complicated. So painful for all those affected. We all fear this outcome. It is a rough life for families. I felt similar to you when we kicked our son out two years ago. It was not possible to live w him and we had to save ourselves. He lived in several shelters in NYC. I guess that is the point where we give our trust to a higher power. I know you will always feel the pain. Try not to feel guilty. You did everything you could do when he was living with you. It is when you exhaust all options mentally, physically and financially that you get to the point of asking your child to leave your home. Life is tough. I wish I had better words. Thank you for sharing with us.

I know you didn’t want your son to go away, you wanted the addiction, the monster that had a hold on him to go away. I truly think the drugs put a twist on their thinking that makes it almost impossible to for them to see logical, rational outcomes of their behavior. And the drugs make them not care.

The only blame is on the ones selling the dope on the streets.


This post has been edited by NyToFlorida on March 18, 2021, 11:29 PM
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Posted: March 19, 2021, 10:10 AM


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longevity60

So sorry, please try to remember all the good memories of your son. Try not to allow the addiction to rob you of all those great memories. It's natural to have guilt but we all are doing our best against the cruel force of addiction. So please be kind to yourself. Your son knew that you loved him.
jeff
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Posted: March 19, 2021, 1:26 PM


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Thank you, Jeff
Your words mean alot. So many people don't understand the addicts struggle. I'm sick of people saying he was weak, or just didn't want to stop. He did, he hated his life and being homeless. He lost his struggle, I will always love him and hate what the drugs did to him.

Thanks again for the kind words.
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Posted: March 19, 2021, 10:34 PM


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Longevity, My deepest sympathy in the loss of your son. My heart broke reading your post and feeling your sadness. You loved your son and he loved you too. Thinking of you and your family.
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Posted: March 23, 2021, 8:58 PM


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Longevity: I'm so sorry for the loss of your precious son. I wish you peace in the future
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Posted: March 30, 2021, 1:17 PM


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My condolences, my son Justin died March 6, 2021 with a similar story. Today, I can hardly breathe I am so overcome with grief. I hope you can find your way, Lovejes
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Posted: March 31, 2021, 11:44 PM


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Dear Jes,
I am very sorry about your son’s passing. Every day can be heartbreaking for a family when a child is living in the cycles of addiction. There’s so many things to say that you have heard a hundred times. I am sorry for your loss. I hope you find peace some day. I know life is difficult and the grief goes deep.
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Posted: April 6, 2021, 12:51 PM


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Condolences longevity for you and your family on the loss of your son. I'm so sorry for you. I read your post and felt so sad for you. This hits home for all of us. Please know in your heart that you did all you could do for your son. You gave it your all and the drugs have taken your son from you. I can only say that you did your best and did it with love for your son in your heart. The pain and heartache you have delt with and are going through now is un describable I'm sure. Please know that we know and your son knows that you loved him very much and you did everything you could to help him. your going through my worst fear and I hope you find words of strength and comfort on this site. I am sending you the biggest hug from one mom to another .remember your son when he was yours before the drugs got ahold of him. The good memories will help to heal your Brocken heart and please try not to feel guilty about having to separate yourself from him and his addiction. You did it so you could help yourself so you would still have strength for when it was needed. Please keep coming back here when you need to talk or you need to know that your not alone.
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