Helping Vs Enabling
Posted: September 21, 2019, 6:57 PM


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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SQQGLduPCCA


www.settingboundaries.com


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bi7IkucDXyE

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N19OJbemZDw


it helps me to keep watching you tube to reinforce this in my mind

This post has been edited by NyToFlorida on September 21, 2019, 7:47 PM
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Posted: September 21, 2019, 11:09 PM


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Thank you NTF very helpful
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Posted: September 27, 2019, 12:56 AM


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One big thing to watch out for they will try to disguise favor request as a need or emergency. Scrutinize and think about all request no matter how small or insignificant. If they ask for a ride to store but bar they go to is near there I'd say no.

That being said it is a fine line between enabling and help which should be for all sober and daily routine task we all go through. BUT the alkie/addict must learn or should do as much as they can for themselves because spare time and money will probably wind up in a bar's cash register.
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