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Relapse And Trying To Convieve

Posted: April 24, 2020, 7:12 AM
I was sober for 3 years from alcohol. I relapsed about a year ago and have since had a few relapses that lasted a a few days. We have been trying doing fertility treatments trying to conceive our first child . My last relapse was the last straw for my husband. He refused to even consider EVER having a child with me bc he thinks I can.t manage 9 months sober. I have made more personal growth and changes over the last few months I hardly recognize yself. He is t interested in acknowledging my growth or even setting a goal/timeline for which he would reconsider having a child. I don’t have any desire to drink and I absolutely love all that I’ve accomplished since the relapse but it isn’t enough for him. I’m 33 and will feel like my life wasn’t fully fulfilled if I don’t have a child be my oartner doesn’t believe that I’m strong enough to make changes. What do I do? I feel the clock ticking constantly and my resentment towards him growing daily. Is it time to cut my losses?

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Posted: April 25, 2020, 6:50 AM
What are you doing to stay sober? Are you going to meetings? Active in AA? Going to therapy? How are you showing him you are serous about recovery?

This post has been edited by 12 stepper on April 25, 2020, 6:50 AM


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