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Posted: December 16, 2006, 12:40 AM
I am worried about saying anything because I already saw one person on here get many posts saying how horrible of a person she is but I need advice. I am still young. I was raped many times by the same person when I was a little girl. And I have heard that it can make some people be overly sexual. And I think I may be one of those people.
I had sex for the first time at the age of fourteen. In a three year period I had had sex with seventeen guys. A couple of them were one night stands. But most of them I would see on a regular basis. I would have sex atleast once everyday or every other day. It never ends. Even if I would have sex that day I would crave it a couple more times a day. I know it is an adiction. I use to not care. I use to think that if a guy could have sex with as many wemon as they wanted what was the problem with a women doing the same thing. But after these cravings got worse and I started going out to parties hoping to have sex I realozed it was a problem. I know this is a problem that needs to be solved but I don't know how to. I don't want to become a teen parent and I don't want to wind up cheating on my man. I love him but he is in the army. I have to fight the urges to cheat. Whenever I am with my male friends I wind up in a predicament that is hard to fight. A couple times I have cheated and I really dont want it to happen again. I don't want to be controlled by this addiction anymore. Please can some one give me some advise on how to get better. | ||
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Posted: February 1, 2007, 10:11 PM
I'm not sure but there have to support groups foe sex addicts. Let me say that I'm sorry that you got raped. You had no control over that ,now you're growing into a woman and you have the power to take control of your actions. If you continue you will end up broken hearted. Talk to someone who can help. how do you think yopur family would react? I'm sure they would want to help. Maybe a teacher. You can buy books on the topic, and look up info on the net. Like with any addiction you have to make your mind up to stop. Best wishes.
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Posted: February 1, 2007, 11:16 PM
I too, was sexually abused in childhood. It did not cause me to be promiscuous, however it created a problem with masturbation and I had horrible shame over that for many years...and it is a common thing for people who have been sexually abused to become sex addicts. There are counselors who can help you to deal with these issues...both the abuse and the results of it in your life. It is not your fault that the abuse happened or that you have problems as a result of that. Try to get the help you need, as you are correct, these are serious problems that can complicate your life. I did get help and I am doing well now...but it was a process of recovery that took some time...I will pray that you get the help you need. Just know that you are not alone...God bless.
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Posted: February 2, 2007, 5:02 PM
Hi, I just like to say that I am too adicted to sex.
I am sorry for the pain you have gone through and I hope that we can overcome any addiction that we face!!! I am hoping by joining this site and talking with others, it will help. I am an "older guy" who had various different sexual experiences with sex all before i was eighteen. Now I am struggling with Internet Porn. I am completely sick of it, I want to overcome it. So, hopefully I can be of some assistance; I think i will be around for awhile. | ||
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Posted: February 14, 2007, 12:48 PM
I am a sex addict. I have been in recovery for almost a year now. Recovery is possible but you need help with it. Sex addiction is in many ways like other addictions and you will find that when you start on the road to recovery, that many other peoples experiences are so similar. You are not alone. I use the 12 step recovery program which is SAA (Sex Addicts anonymous). It is based on the 12 steps of AA. So far it has saved my marriage and finally I am not only getting a large chibk of my life back, but I am also discovering so much more about myself in a very healthy and positive way.
Good luck Matt | ||
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Posted: February 15, 2007, 8:05 PM
My names jen too ....i was raped at the age of seven till age ten "when he was arrested". I tried to hang myself at 16. I know how it feels I would not wish it on my worst enemy. For me it lead into drug addiction not a sex addiction. I found heroin to heal.... it brought about a WHOLE truck load of issues of it's own. BOTH DRUGS AND SEX cause the brain to release hormones that make you feel GOOD! When you over use "sex or drugs" you deplete your brain from making that chemical after you come down from the sex or drugs it leads to depression which leads to more SEX or DRUGS to get back that feeling. I want to let you know i'm 29 now.... some days i'm still that 7 year old girl. Your still very young try everything to seek help for this. If I had got proper treatemt for the abuse i'm pretty sure i'ld NOT started shooting up dope. Now that i'm nearly two years clean i'm finding my sex drive is crazy i want to eat candy all the time. I know it sounds funny but i'm a pleasure seeker to the fullest my newest addiction COFFEE. You need to work on making you feel good without sex like i'm learing there is life after heroin.
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Posted: February 15, 2007, 8:20 PM
google sex anoymous there are 12 step meetings and forums.
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Posted: March 5, 2007, 9:59 AM
Why don't you go to a councellor and have a good chat with her/him.Talking about these things will help you in your everyday life. My heart goes out to you but if you don't talk about it, it will tear you apart so look for as much help as you can. TRUST ME
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Posted: March 17, 2008, 5:40 AM
Jenblen.
You are absolutely NOT alone and can be helped. I just finished reading a wonderful book called "Contrary to Love" that was very helpful in explaining the illness of sex addiction. It helps take the shame and guilt that always occurs with addiction in general, but even more with this type of addiction. It also talks about the importance of therapy, as well as support groups. (SAA - sex addiction anonymous, and sister programs like it). You can even join these groups on the internet if in person is too hard or not possible because of the area you live in. Sex addiction usually manifests (but not always) as a result of childhood sexual abuse. Like any other addiction, there is a core value system in the individual that they did not have a healthy sense of theirselves (i.e. noone can love them like they are). Also, like with all addicts, there is a substance or behavior (in this case sex) that is used as a self-medication in order to escape the pain or elleviate stress, etc. Sex addiction though is kind of like an eating disorder though because sex, like food, is a part of being human. An alcoholic can recover and should never drink again. Sex addicts though can recover and it would not be practical to never engage in sex again, just like the bulemic has to eat. It not abour completely removing sex from your life (though it might be required for a bit) its about working through the healing process of what is at the root, learning new healthy ways to deal with life stresses and uncomfortable emotions, and restoring, repairing, or newly creating the way you see yourself (gettinng rid of the core belief system that skews your perception of yourself and others). The fact that you came on here admitting that you have a prblem is an excellent sign of the recovery that you can claim. Some see addiction as an illness, which means that they see it as lifelong, but like any other illness it can be managed and recovery can take place. My partner was in denial about his addiction, even with apparent consequences, and it took many interventions before he could admit it, and take steps towards regaining control. You seem to have already taken the hardest step - you should be very proud! I's suggest reading either Out of the Shadows or Contray to Love, contacting a therapist that has experience in this type of addiction, and joining a 12 step program .... any of these steps even by themselves would be a step in the right direction. Love, Light, and Much Luck to you ........ and lastly be kind and gentle with yourself! | ||
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Posted: July 3, 2012, 4:20 PM
I tried a few of the Sex Addication Programs - I finally had to go with Sexaholics Anonomyous. www.SA.org . I had to also join the sister fellowship SANON.org to deal with the childhood abuse I experianced. Both have been powerful programs for me. Peter
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Posted: February 9, 2013, 12:31 PM
You can see your GP and get medicated to stop you from getting aroused, thats the best way for you to start. Those meetings are bull.
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Posted: March 5, 2013, 3:31 PM
Look to God. He is your heavenly father. Pray daily. God bless you
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