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Posted: August 21, 2010, 4:35 AM
It's not nessecarily the religious who want to stop. There are plenty of practical, secular reasons too.

I don't like it because it takes up a lot of my time, & it can substitute a proper relationship- it's easy, very pleasurable, but on the whole it doesn't make me happy- it's kind of like drug use. Great at the time, but afterwards I feel depleted & lazy. After sex, the feeling is different.

Good luck stopping

Posted: December 15, 2011, 9:16 AM
Masturbation is healthy, everybody does it and its nothing to be ashamed of.

Posted: April 8, 2012, 11:44 PM
What I would suggest is having sex with your wife. She is available and must be willing to accept your advances. Make your sex life more exciting with your wife. I hope you would no longer resort to masturbation to release your sex drive. By the way it is not dirty to have masturbation. That is how we did it when we were young and growing up and with no sexual partners to have sex with.

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Posted: April 21, 2013, 10:06 PM
Masturbation may be healthy and natural, but not if it is consuming your life. If you are then having problems when with a partner because you are so used to masturbating, or have desensitized yourself so sex does not feel so good any more you have a problem.

Posted: April 26, 2013, 11:42 PM
What are your beliefs or attitudes about the idea of God? I myself never appreciated the bible thumping "Jesus loves you but knock it off" crap and therefore ended up searching everywhere else for answers because I didn't want to be condemned for something I couldn't control. It wasn't until all other measures failed that I relented and sought after honest truth on my own directly from the source Himself that things turned around. And I'm not just talking addictions. Deep, dark things I have never told anyone else but Him about.

You mentioned how dirty and ashamed you feel because of it, and I can definitely relate to that.

There is a story in the gospels of a man who sought Jesus out, I believe he was a leper, and fell down on his knees and said, "Lord if you are willing, you can make me clean." And Jesus told him, "I am willing. Be clean." He wasn't telling him to go get clean, he was commanding His will into reality, and immediately this man's "uncleanness" left Him.

I can tell you from personal experience, I wasn't raised in some churchy environment by any means, He is willing. But it takes someone seeking Him out with every fiber of their being.

Anyway, I hope this isn't out of place and I hope no one feels like I'm swooping in like a vulture trying to rack up tally marks for a trip to heaven or something. That truly is not my intention. And most if not all 12 step/recovery groups will suggest you at least be open to a higher power's existence and willingness to assist you. This is the only thing that worked for me. I don't feel like I'm just resisting or suppressing urges all of the time, just trying to white-knuckle it to the finish line. I truly am free.

I sincerely hope you find some peace. I know it isn't fun to be tormented by these things. Best wishes.


Posted: June 12, 2013, 11:40 AM

I agree that masturbation is natural -- but it can become an addiction and can interfere with your life. It has impacted my life, and as I go through recovery, I am finding out how much better life can be -- even after the consequences of my actions.

I have found that there are many organizations that can help. The first is SASH (the Society for Advancement of Sexual Health) and they have a ton of resources. If you think you might be a sex addict, check out http://www.sash.net/am-i-a-sex-addict

Also, there are many 12 step recovery groups available. Some of them have different philosophies, so look around and see which one fits your life best.

saa-recovery.org (Sexual Addicts Anonymous)
www.sa.org (Sexaholics Anonymous)
www.slaafws.org (Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous)
... (there are many more if you do a search)

Finally, I wish you the best and hope you are able to find the peace you deserve. This struggle is a tough one, but you can get yourself on the path you really want to be on. Good luck!


Posted: August 19, 2013, 8:24 PM
Well, f***!! if its so goddamned healthy and natural why don't I just crash on one of your sofas for a few years...don't worry I'm on Social Security and HEY I'm only 41 years old YIPPEEE!

Posted: August 19, 2013, 9:14 PM
I threw my left shoulder out cause I switched arms for "kicks"...no lie.

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Posted: December 16, 2013, 12:06 AM

That's a tough one. I think that masterbation and pornography can cause problems. I use to have the same type of issue but i learned more about it and learned why these are so hard to overcome. And that alone helped me a lot. I found a very interesting article about this. I'll post it here if I can:article

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” – Socrates

Click here for the best evidence-based addiction program I have found

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Posted: April 5, 2015, 12:36 AM
I know nobody has responded in awhile. but i to suffer from a masturbation addiction. its 1-2 times a day, everyday. usually looking at porn.

I have a healthy sex life with my Fiance, Theres no real other issues besides the fact i use masturbation to relieve my insomnia and in some cases, my Rage.

Stress reducing is a big one for me.

As a deterrent i tried to eliminate my options to get to doing it. Like throwing out my toys or access to the porn.

I unfortunately found i have a new problem.

Vibrator addiction. For a female, i guess it is all to real. For me, i cant orgasm without the pocket rocket. I just cant anymore. Unless its sex with the husband.

So believe me i understand your problem. its a worse addiction then most realize....

Posted: July 26, 2016, 12:43 PM
Hello. Firstly, i am so sorry if i got any mistakes in my sentence because i am from Malaysia.

For any people who are addicted in masturbation, i believe that masturbation is a bad addiction that will lead to depression, stress or feeling low self esteem.

Here I have some tips that i hope these will help you to get rid of the addiction. I hope it will help a bit.

1. Never be alone. Because you'll feel like trigger to masturbate when there are no people watching. Remember, never be alone alright?

2. Don't watch porn. the risk when you watched porn, is you will keep thinking about sex and for sure it will trigger to masturbate.

3. Keep yourself busy doing something beneficial. Travel around your country, join any social activities with neighbours, anything. Anything as long as you're in the right track.

Good luck !
xoxo. Mslmgirl.

Posted: November 18, 2016, 4:23 AM
Im 33 and my husband 34. We have sex once a month if im lucky!
I have cought him so many times masterbating to porn after turning me away saying he's too tired!
I have tried soooo many times talking to him about it in the last 4 yrs, but he gets angry at me and says
" i cant f*** u with that face"
If i have a long face it bcoz i make an effort everyday to look sexy for him and he never even notices!

Posted: November 18, 2016, 4:27 AM
So i would def get help bcoz its def not healthy on a marrige!
This will prob be what finishes us!
I have never cheated but have had horrible thoughts a few times!

Posted: August 18, 2018, 2:07 AM
Fortunately there is hope AND a solution.

If you feel you have a problem, there is a good chance you do. In my fellowship, not being able to stop masturbating, extra marital affairs, anonymous sex, watching porn....ect, that is a compulsive act. Let's call it an addiction, cause it is.

Solution? Get into a recovery group, a 12 step recovery group preferably. I recommend any "S" or sex recovery program. There is SA, SAA, SLAA which are the most attended. You will find many, many people with similar stories as yours. People who study this addiction say 10% of the population (on the low side) to 30% have some kind of sex addiction.

With the internet, you have any & all kinds of porn, some so disturbing it is amazing it is not shut down. This is the ONLY addiction I know of where you can be locked in a dark room and still act out.

If you are already familiar with your Higher Power/ AKA God, there are programs that have 12 step and are directly by name, tied to the Bible. That program is called Celebrate Recovery. Many churches/places have this program, as many places hold SAA, SA & SLAA meetings.

I have 7 years sobriety from a negative life of divorce, losing jobs, relationships, good friends and a home. If I can do it, ANYONE can.

So, look on the net for sex addiction recovery, the 12 step programs are free and work wonderfully IF YOU work it.

I also recommend therapy, just another angle to hit that addict who is hitting you at all angles!

I wish you luck, you can live a life free from porn, masturbation and sex addiction!
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