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Posted: February 3, 2014, 4:00 PM
hi, not really sure where to start but i hope someone can help me as i am unsure what is real anymore 2 years 6 months ago i met my soul mate, he had been on all sorts of drugs for a lot of years since his teens, when i met him he was addicted to alcohol. He joined a 12 step programme and has since rebuilt his life he has done fantastic and i am so proud of him.
The problem is he was all so attentive and loving and i knew he loves me with all his heart as i felt it, but now its like he doesnt care he is so wrapped up in working with other people with addictions and meeting there doesnt seem anything left for me. he stopped taking his subbys lately. we have been engaged for a year and i asked him should we set a date for the wedding, the answer was no not yet. i feel like im been blagged even though he says he loves me and i was there to help him at the beggining. i feel like a spare part. i just want to try and understand im finding it hard as i have never been there. can some one try to explain i would appreciate it im desperate. | ||
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Posted: February 4, 2014, 9:58 PM
Recovering addicts and alcoholics must work a program of recovery as hard asthey worked their addiciton and they have to give it away to keep it...that's where the involvement in helping others comes from...it's a necessary component to success and quite simply feels right and good. Without more info about the subs I can't really comment. Is he under a doctor's care? Did he wean off of them? Did he just stop and you suspect he's using? IS something 'different' about his general demeanor?
Sometimes relationships just don't work out, but maybe you are taking this too personally and he just wants more recovery time under his belt before committing to marriage...that makes sense to me and to anyone who has been involved with addiction. This is really a conversation you need to be havin with him. Peace ~ MomNMore -------------------- You will not change what you are willing to tolerate.  | ||
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