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Posted: September 29, 2013, 3:28 AM
I dont know where to start. My life is a living nightmare at the moment! So we just crawl into bed and hear a very large bang, my huband and i race to see what going on to find my son bleeding on side of his head and my husbands motor bike thrown to the ground smashed. Im told some guys came to the doorsmashed my 17 yr old on side of the head and cause other damage as they ran away. If ypu ask myson he has no clue andi am over reacting. Ill pretty much bet its a drug debt! did i mention they had a gun... I need my sonto move out. We are scared, what if my daughter was at door...whats next shooting our home. Enough is enough!


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Posted: September 29, 2013, 9:09 PM
Yikes, I'd be scared, too. You have a right to live without that type of fear and violence invading your home. So it sounds like you already have some insight into your son and his addictions...what's it been like and what's his drug of choice? How long has it been going on and how has your family been dealing with it? Glad you found this site...read around and you'll see lots of folks struggling with the same issues.

Hang in there ~ MomNMore

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Posted: September 30, 2013, 1:33 AM
My son is 17 and on and off drug issues started around thirteen with weed. His drug of choice now is heroin. He was kicked out for over a year and started doing well, moved home at christmas. Relapsed went to treatment couple months ago. I thought he was doing well but we noticed the people coming to our home not someone who want to hang out with a 17 yr old. This happened fri night, he has been basically having a massive temper tantrum since then. He has a probation order with a must reside clause so mon am i will call po and demand he be moved! He is not safe in this town and now neither are we! I dont know what the options will be but im done and i love my son too much to allow this to continue. Im gonna be one hated mom for a long time and im ok with that! I need to make sure other kids feel safe also. What he chooses to do from here on out is his to learn. I even cut off his phone this am... Big step for me :) i didnt see or didnt want to see some signs but cant miss this one! Its good to know other people get it! Thank you


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Posted: October 1, 2013, 7:42 PM
h yes, now I remember your story...your son has been in the system on and off like foster care and group homes, no? He's a hard one already at 17, but your family and your other kids do deserve not to live the life he has chosen. I know how hard it is to turn off that phone, but I also know that my daughter seldom used it to call us when she was in deep...so you done good.

Hang in there! M&M

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Posted: October 4, 2013, 11:19 PM
Good on you!

We had a foster son for 8years from when he was 11. Poured our heart and soul into this damaged little being. Up until he was 16 everything was wonderful then his heroin-addicted real mom appeared since she abandoned him at 5 weeks...all gone to hell since then. Now he is 19 with two kids to two other damaged little teenagers. They are using the system for all it's worth, he has become a lying slacker, abusive and manipulative when he doesn't get his own way

Nothing is ever his fault, he has a great line in what's wrong with everyone else plus of course the system. I felt sorry for him that the addiction was screwing him up...but that addiction is screwing up everyone around him too. There are little babies suffering all this and both of their child-mothers call me a b&%ch for telling them not to believe him. Then they come crying to me the next day.

The whole situation is sad and insane. Good on your for holding firm. I'm not religious but understand what the devil has taken over means...even if it is couched in "I love you please help me" (then he gets what he wants and disappears for weeks on end) terms. If he's clever enough to manipulate the government systems and spend his time finding drugs rather than working, he is grown up enough to take responsibility for his actions.
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