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Posted: July 22, 2013, 8:59 AM
So apparently my request started a s*** storm of epic proportions. Sorry about that. But growing up in a chemically dependent family, I am we'll versed in the study of codependency and know that I am only responsible for me and my choices. I feel nothing towards this person who is attacking me on every thread here. Wishing me relapse, talking s*** about my husband, outing other posters on their confidential information, etc. I ignored her at a certain point yesterday and it was actually amusing to watch her go ballistic. It made me stronger. It showed me that there are plenty of losers in life who only feel good when others are hurt and I can walk away. I have never felt less like using and am going to celebrate day 11 with my wonderful, well-cared for children and be proud that I pegged this psycho from her first " supportive" post to me. Living well is the best revenge! While she's spewing venom on a computer and popping pills and drinking wine, I'll be at the beach, at the park, at the movies with the two most wonderful people on earth! Have a great day everyone! (Sorry Hopes, couldn't resist!)


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Posted: July 22, 2013, 9:08 AM
Mornin Quittin!

That was well said and I feel the same way! At this point, its just amusing. Im going into day 12 ans ~no one~ can take that away from me. I feel so much joy because of that. Im still struggling with the emotions up and down (from the coke I think) but otherwsie I feel great. I am clean and thats the only thing on me! Yahoo!!!

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Posted: July 22, 2013, 9:27 AM
Morgan,
I'm really emotional too. It sucks but I guess that's the next step. We will do this!


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Posted: July 23, 2013, 9:47 AM
Where are ya Quittin?

Seems like everyone stopped posting after the mods took care of business?


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Posted: July 23, 2013, 1:36 PM
Just by starting this thread you are doing nothing but continuing the drama. It's over. The moderators came to the decision that her actions were inappropriate but be careful who you call a "loser".

She needs more help that just addiction and I hope she finds it. I've been on this board since 2005 and have witnessed far more toxic people than her.

If she ever comes back and simply ask for help and what do I need to do to stay sober, then I will be one of the first to try and help her. That is the purpose of this bulletin board. It was obvious she wasn't ready but 90% of the people who post are not ready. That doesn't make them less than are losers. This is a disease. It has nothing to do with personalities.

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Posted: July 23, 2013, 2:09 PM
Hopes/Quittin what exactly are you doing to deal with your disease?


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Posted: July 23, 2013, 2:10 PM
Tim, I think you may of misunderstood. This thread was from the other day in the middle of the drama. I posted to it todsy to see if Quittin was still around.

This wasnt just posted/


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Posted: July 23, 2013, 2:13 PM
Sub~Ive been posting about that. One of my 1sr goals is to cut ties with my ex, which is a big reason for my relapse. Hes not the cause. but I foolish;y kidded myself into thinking I could handle being around hi,m while sober while he was using/

Also I need to do more work on me. While I was free of any substamces for 4 yrs, I didnt really ~do~ anything to work on my addiction. It was like out of sight, out of mind which i know isnt healthy.

Ive hit a fee NA meetings and have been trying to stay busy with walks friends hobbies.


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Posted: July 24, 2013, 5:17 PM
4 yrs of sobriety? now relapse--How did you manage 4 yrs sober/cross addicted? Dry Drunk--

Again what is different as your past means nothing besides what you learned. Now you have an opportunity to CHANGE/FIGHT for your disease.

Whats up for today? Do you have a AA/NA big book? Do you have a sponsor or had one in the past.

Do you have any friends who know your story and understand your disease?

if you want help you need to get honest. Trust me I tried it my way and us cross addicts need a lot of help.

The forums are for support. your disease needs a lot more than support.

Jeffrey

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Posted: July 25, 2013, 4:10 AM
I guess I don't fully understand your answer?

I'm trying to be honest here and tryig to figure out where I went wrong, that's what I'm dsoing, and I never said I can do that with just ~support~.

I also dont understand your dry drunk comments? I didnt use for 4 years but I didnt actively workl of my sobriety either. Why would a relapse be surprising in that case?

Sorry but your answer left me with more questions then answers


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Posted: July 25, 2013, 9:21 AM
not sure if this helps but to me "dry drunk" means you are technically clean and alcohol and drug free but that's it. I have trouble getting what my brain says coming out right thru my mouth. Ok, my experience with being a dry drunk is...I had a year clean but that was all I was. I didn't work a program. I flirted with my sobriety by going to bars with friends etc. Hanging with people I shouldn't. If I had been working a program I wouldn't put myself into situations like I did.

Hope this helps a little on what Jeff meant. Its what I think it is and only my opinion.

Jeff? is this on the right track?

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Posted: July 25, 2013, 9:45 AM
Thanx foggy that makes sense and I would agree with that. Ive said from the beginning that I didnt work on my recovery, I just sort of went about my life thinking I was good to go (which of course I know better).

I also know that trying to maintain a friendshio with my ex was bad news. I actuallt knew that already but since I felt I had enough ~clean time~ I kidded myself into thinking I was just fine. Not so much!

Thanx for your answer, that makes sense.


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Posted: July 25, 2013, 7:51 PM
hopes please google Dry Drunk and you will Get the answer Via AA--

Heather jME being a dry drunk was the worst of it all.Do not ever want to be in that place again.

Jeffrey

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