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Posted: June 20, 2013, 11:59 PM
my son is23 and a great hearted kid but has a drug addication ..im at my wits end there is no help where we live .i love him so much
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Posted: June 21, 2013, 8:39 PM
Of course you love him...we all love our addicted children...they are sick, not inherently bad people, though the drugs can turn them bad pretty quickly and make it hard to find the person they once were.
Bottom line, you can't 'help' him or fix him, or cure him, only he can do that. What you can do is support his efforts to get clean when they are real and in earnest...and believe me, you will find out quick enough if he means it or if you are being played. Do not give him money and do not trust him not to steal from you...the drugs will claim his morality. Do not throw money at his problem...there are planty of resources out there should he choose to get clean. Do not allow him to abuse you verbally or financially and do not buy into emotional blackmail. It's usually best if you do not allow an addict to live in your home...this keeps them too comfortable - a roof, a bed, a full refrigerator, and other comforts leave little reason to make a change - he needs to feel the full weight of his addiction. What is your son's drug of choice and how have things been? Welcome, and I'm sorry for your pain. Peace ~ MomNMore -------------------- You will not change what you are willing to tolerate.  | ||
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Posted: June 22, 2013, 12:07 PM
Well said MomNMore :)
Welcome, and keep coming here, find a support group in your local area. These fist steps are the hardest in this journey...we have all been there, are there, live it daily. Find joy in the rest of your life, do not let the drama from the situations he puts himself in for his addiction... -------------------- "It is hard to watch someone you love fall to the depth of their "bottom" ...you can only hope it does not take them long to reach it, survive it...and begin the long slow climb out." | ||
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