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Posted: April 14, 2015, 1:18 PM
hello, my son is 22 and is a opioid addict, heroin Is his drug of choice. I had allowed him and his girlfriend, plus there 2 dogs to move in with myself and his 15 year old brother. I thought I was helping them get on there feet, for they became homeless, little did I know all I was doing was enabling them. 10 months later I realized this and decided to give them notice that myself and my 15 year old will be moving and that my 22 year old and his girlfriend need to find a place of there own. That notice ended up being 3 months. And had to get kick them out to live in there car, hotels, couch surfing. That was the toughest thing I had to do. About 6 weeks later I got s call my son was in jail. Drug possession and more, he was in for 6 days, which was a ruff detox for him but in the end while waiting to see if he Gos to prison for up to 2 yrs he has been trying. to be clean, His doing. Joined a outpatient drug rehab and I can see how much he struggles. I can only pray that this hitting rock bottom encourages him to change his lifestyle. Scared to death if he dose go to prison it can harden him and make it worse.
Hopefully he will continue his journey to a clean and sober life. One can only hope. Wishful Mom. | ||
Posted: April 15, 2015, 4:46 PM
I believe you did the right thing. Codependency has caused as many drug-related deaths as the drugs themselves.
Once on their own, it is easier for the addict to see his life and problems as his, as opposed to blaiming someone else. Once that realization sets in, it is easier for the addict to seek the right kind of help. When someone else is paying the bill, or providing housing, it is a significant barrier for the addict to find recovery. For your son, there are many, many choices he can turn to for help. NA and AA are free. Treatment centers, or services provided by the government, can also be helpful. At the end of the day, you are powerless over his addiction. All you can do is stop loving him to death. It sounds, to me, like you are doing the right thing. I hope this helps. Flyboy |
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